"When one has not had a good father, one must create one…" – -Nietzsche
As usual, Nietzsche makes a profound point using both a sledgehammer and a slick sense of subtlety. Perhaps it's odd to quote a controversial philosopher like Nietzsche on Father's Day, but the two aphorisms I chose to include in this column would be perfect for stepfathers if only the first aphorism read as follows:
"When a stepchild has not had a good biological father, a stepchild must accept their stepfather."
I am sick and tired of stepfathers getting a bad rap within our culture. Movies like "Domestic Disturbance" portray stepfathers as killers. I'm not aware of any country singers honoring "Step dad and Home." Even some fathers' rights advocates write stepfathers off as no good.
Posted on: 31-10-2006
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Book Description
A practical guide for meeting the challenges of stepfamily life.
More than one in five families with two parents is a stepfamily, and eight million children live in stepfamilies. The stepfamily is both a wonderful blessing and a challenge.
Drawing on their own experiences, and that of the stepfamilies with whom they have worked. Robert and Jeanette Lauer give realistic, helpful advice on how to deal with the major challenges in stepfamily life: Loss, adjustment, personal identity, family identity, loyalty conflicts, former spouses, resources, stepparenting, and marital intimacy. The authors encourage the formation of stepparent support groups, and an appendix includes activities and suggestions for small-group discussion.
