Tips to blend your family – Be Yourself
Be Yourself!
Do not try to be someone other than who you are. Initially you should not try to “parent” your new step-children. You are not their parent and they will resent you for assuming the role of their father/mother. Instead, the biological parent should continue to set limits with their children. As a step-parent you can backup your partner by enforcing these boundaries. There may be qualities of a friendship but both the children and step-parent must remember that they have an adult-child relationship, not an equal friendship.
Just Add Kids, Then Blend Well | Momlogic
For Stepmothers: Tough Lesson About Expectations
Years ago, I married into a stepfamily My husband had full time custody of his kids and a demanding career, so guess who had the job of raising the kids! Cathy was almost 8 and WILLFUL.
Naïve and full of expectations, I looked forward to buying her sweet, feminine dresses and doing girl stuff. (I had 2 biological sons already.) I had in my mind what little girls were supposed to look like and be like – cute and feminine, sweet and obedient, as I was as a child. Little did I know!
For Stepmothers: Tough Lesson About Expectations – Stepfamily Association of South Australia
