Mum vs. Stepmum

Many stepfamilies have to deal with conflict. The kids may not always get along and finances can be especially tough when parents are contributing to the expenses of two households, but too often, some sources of stepfamily stress are the hard feelings that exist between the children’s mother and their stepmother, frequently over jealousy, petty disagreements, or unresolved emotions from a romantic relationship gone sour.

Understanding the Position of the Children’s Natural Mother

When a relationship ends, there are often unresolved issues, leaving both partners with some mixed emotions and uneasiness. When one moves on and enters into a new relationship, the other partner may feel hurt, angry, or even frightened, and may have a hard time understanding why the news is having such a strong impact on them.

While watching an ex happily involved with a new woman can be difficult, it can be next to impossible to feign acceptance when that same woman begins to develop relationships with the couple’s children. Whether or not it seems reasonable, it can be very hard for mothers to see their children being “mothered” by another, yet when their fathers remarry, a certain amount of affection is likely to develop between the children and their stepmum.

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